Brighton Magazine

The Brighton Magazine

Selected Brighton Magazine Article

Thursday 07 July 2016

Gay Dad: Ten True Stories Of Divorced Gay Men With Kids Living In The UK Today

We may never know for sure, how many gay men end up marrying women and having children with them – nor all the reasons that compelled them to do so – but the book 'Gay Dad: Ten True Stories ..' gives us unique insights into the lives of some of these men and their families. 

Now, ten gay men from different walks of life explain, in their own words, how and why they ended up married, how they felt about their wives, what happened when they had children – and how they eventually separated from their wives and found new lives as 'gay dads'. 

"I will never get that image out of my mind, of me leaving my wife and two babies on the doorstep as I walked away with a bin bag of clothes to the car, where Marcus was waiting … Most of my friends and family could not deal with it … my father didn"t talk to me for two years." says Harry

"Now, my ex-wife and I go to the cinema together on best friend dates, I spend family dinners with her parents, her brothers and sisters still consider me one of their siblings … my boyfriend is just a new addition to our unique and happy family" says Edward

 This important book also includes meticulously researched information on many aspects of gay-life and LGBT culture as well as examining the teachings of the major world religions on homosexuality and the plight of gay people living in those countries where homosexuality is still illegal and severely punished.

Foreword by 'gay dad' Charlie Condou (Marcus Dent in  TV"s Coronation Street)

Charlie lives with his Canadian husband, Cameron Laux, and his daughter and son. The children divide their time between Charlie and their mother, the actress Catherine Kanter.

"The stories in Gay Dad are quite different to mine. They come from men who for family, cultural or religious reasons felt unable to live openly as gay men. Instead they entered into marriages and raised children until the pressure of hiding such an important part of themselves became too much, forcing them out of the closet and into much more open and honest lives … These stories offer us inspiration that change is not just possible, it is wonderful." says Charlie Condou

Author, David Ledain (a pen-name) is a gay man who married a woman and went on to have children with her.  

He and his wife are now separated but continue to share the care of their children.  

David hopes that the true-life accounts of the gay dads featured in this book will be of help to other gay men who married women – and to their wives and children.

"I hadn't a clue then that there were so many other men in exactly the same situation as me, until I discovered a whole group online. They too had fallen in love with a woman and got married against all their natural instincts … at last I could talk to other men who had gone through the same trauma. I hope that this book might inspire and encourage other gay dads to realise that they are not alone." says David Ledain

Gay Dad:Ten True Stories Of Divorced Gay Men With Kids Living In The UK Today is out now. CLICK HERE for more info.


by: Mike Cobley



Related links

Gay Dad Buy 'Gay Dad'

Share    


Feist's first album in six years reflects on secrets and shame, loneliness and tenderness, care and fatigue and is at its core a study on self-awareness. 


I was a Dodson and Fogg virgin until the Down At The Beach EP landed in my inbox. I am, in contrast, a long-time fan of the EP's creator, Chris Wade. He's written a wealth of book and magazine titles; the contents of which both inform and entertain. 

Alzheimer's Society has launched a new campaign calling on people in Brighton and Hove to set aside their differences - from age to tastes and social standing to political allegiances - and unite in the fight against dementia, as it’s set to become the 21st century's biggest killer.
Image © Alessia-Chinazzo

Arthur Miller's 1953 play seems to gain in resonance as time marches on - originally a response to the McCarthy-era Communist Witch-hunts, Miller was compelled to write about the actual 1692 witch-hunts in Salem, New England where neighbours and friends turned on each other in a frenzy of lies, peer pressure and a campaign of fear by the authorities. 
Copyright Francesca Grace McLeod

The Artists Open Houses festival 2017, the largest event of its kind in the UK, will take place in Brighton, Hove and beyond over four weekends of May, starting Saturday 6th May.

This spring, Brighton is set for a surprise as an entertainment paradise pops up in the leafy greenery of the Royal Pavilion Garden. 

Byline Festival launches at Pippingford Park, East Sussex, this summer, offering festivalgoers a unique opportunity to recapture the spirit of festivals when they had a sense of purpose. It is for everyone who doesn't want to take Trump, fake news or alternative truth lying down.

Next month, May 2017, marks Chris T-T's 20th anniversary making music. The same week in 1997 that Tony Blair came to power, Chris moved to London and before the end of May he’d played his first solo gigs (Chris that is, not Tony) and self-released his debut 7” single.  

Three friends with a passion for philanthropy and adventure have decided to take on the Mongol Rally to raise funds and awareness for St. John's School and College, a special educational needs school, college and charity based in Kemptown, Brighton and Firle Road, Seaford.

You hear it all the time: 'Bands these days have got nothing to say' .. 'It's not like it was in my day' .. 'Where are the voices of today's generation?'

Woody Allen is seemingly fixated on the end. He has little truck for the long haul that leads up to his inevitable demise. Life to him, like film making, is ‘'a different kind of pain.’

Edgar William Jones, also known as Edgar Summertyme, is an English singer-songwriter and musician who was originally the bass player and singer-songwriter for the Stairs and has since formed and fronted the Isrites, The Big Kids, Edgar Jones & the Joneses and Free Peace. 
Kate Tempest by Eddie Otchere

At a political and social moment that feels particularly precarious, Kate Tempest's Brighton Festival programme (6-28 May 2017) celebrates what she calls the Everyday Epic. 

Experts in HIV will gather at a special Brighton Festival event to discuss the city's United Nations ''Fast Track City' status.

Archive search

Search our archives for what's on and gone for the best of this city's theatre music comedy news and much more...







Organising a conference or event in Brighton?
See our Brighton Conference section.
Brighton web design by ...ntd