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Thursday 07 July 2016

Gay Dad: Ten True Stories Of Divorced Gay Men With Kids Living In The UK Today

We may never know for sure, how many gay men end up marrying women and having children with them – nor all the reasons that compelled them to do so – but the book 'Gay Dad: Ten True Stories ..' gives us unique insights into the lives of some of these men and their families. 

Now, ten gay men from different walks of life explain, in their own words, how and why they ended up married, how they felt about their wives, what happened when they had children – and how they eventually separated from their wives and found new lives as 'gay dads'. 

"I will never get that image out of my mind, of me leaving my wife and two babies on the doorstep as I walked away with a bin bag of clothes to the car, where Marcus was waiting … Most of my friends and family could not deal with it … my father didn"t talk to me for two years." says Harry

"Now, my ex-wife and I go to the cinema together on best friend dates, I spend family dinners with her parents, her brothers and sisters still consider me one of their siblings … my boyfriend is just a new addition to our unique and happy family" says Edward

 This important book also includes meticulously researched information on many aspects of gay-life and LGBT culture as well as examining the teachings of the major world religions on homosexuality and the plight of gay people living in those countries where homosexuality is still illegal and severely punished.

Foreword by 'gay dad' Charlie Condou (Marcus Dent in  TV"s Coronation Street)

Charlie lives with his Canadian husband, Cameron Laux, and his daughter and son. The children divide their time between Charlie and their mother, the actress Catherine Kanter.

"The stories in Gay Dad are quite different to mine. They come from men who for family, cultural or religious reasons felt unable to live openly as gay men. Instead they entered into marriages and raised children until the pressure of hiding such an important part of themselves became too much, forcing them out of the closet and into much more open and honest lives … These stories offer us inspiration that change is not just possible, it is wonderful." says Charlie Condou

Author, David Ledain (a pen-name) is a gay man who married a woman and went on to have children with her.  

He and his wife are now separated but continue to share the care of their children.  

David hopes that the true-life accounts of the gay dads featured in this book will be of help to other gay men who married women – and to their wives and children.

"I hadn't a clue then that there were so many other men in exactly the same situation as me, until I discovered a whole group online. They too had fallen in love with a woman and got married against all their natural instincts … at last I could talk to other men who had gone through the same trauma. I hope that this book might inspire and encourage other gay dads to realise that they are not alone." says David Ledain

Gay Dad:Ten True Stories Of Divorced Gay Men With Kids Living In The UK Today is out now. CLICK HERE for more info.


by: Mike Cobley



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